Posted by: Amy Hanson | August 17, 2011

Fear – Friend or Foe

Quite some time ago I lived much of my life with fear being the basis for my decisions.  I wasn’t consciously aware of it: fear had become ingrained in my way of being as a very young child; I didn’t know anything else. All I was aware of was a constant discomfort in my body.  Most of the time, I denied the discomfort even existed. My life was a constant reaction of either fight or flight.

Many of my friends advocated affirmations as a way of healing.  So I set out daily, with strict determination, to overcome this unsettled inner feeling. I studied many books written about the subject and made sure each word I chose was thoughtfully selected; present tense, positive and felt throughout my whole body. I faithfully thought and felt the message of the day and continued to do this for a long period of time. It did not work. Outwardly I became a more positive person, but inwardly there was no change. Feeling the fear was still very big inside.

While manifesting positivity is a good thing, I believe there is a place in healing for examining and changing attitudes. What I experienced in this case was that the affirmations were like a band-aid on a much deeper challenge. I came to understand that sticking to affirmations has the potential to keep us from not truly facing the really tough issues that in turn lead to an expedited form of healing.

And so, with help, I was able to name the part of myself that was Fear. I felt it as a constant dull ache in my stomach. I had accomplished so much in life; nothing could ever stop me. How could this part be Fear? I was ashamed to admit I even felt fear. All I wanted was for this part to go away. “Be Gone Fear!” But that didn’t work either.  I came to understand that I needed to embrace Fear. Ignoring it, rejecting it, pushing over it and trying to bury it, all didn’t work for me and actually made it bigger. I began to build relationship with this long neglected part. I would lie with my hand on my stomach and surround Fear with love and in doing so I expanded the part of me who is compassionate, loving and understanding. From the place of compassion, I breathed into Fear. I created a dialogue, journaled and drew pictures of Fear. I danced Fear. As I came to understand the roots of Fear, Fear diminished.

Do I ever feel Fear now?  Of course…fear is one of the complex emotions that make me a human being.  What is different now is that it is not a constant in my being. Fear does not control my decisions. I am less reactive and more thoughtful. I make clearer and healthier choices for myself. By embracing Fear I feel more whole in who I am.

The world is in a state of chaos. Fear is rampant. It is my belief that what is going on inside of us as individuals is reflected globally. The choices I see are to be a part of the fear, stand as an opposing force to fear or to dig down deep and work through our own fear.

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Posted by: Amy Hanson | June 30, 2011

Mother Spirit Song

This was forwarded to me by a friend.  It was a song that was sung for her.  I only wish I could have heard the music….the words are so wonderful.

Mother Spirit, rest in my soul.
Help me find the way to be whole.
All my wandering peace and joy will bring,
Mother Spirit, rest in my soul!

Mother Spirit, cradle me here.
Help me live my life without fear.
Guide me and protect, every lie reject,
Mother Spirit, cradle me here!

Mother Spirit, I am your child.
You have made me gentle and wild.
Set my spirit free, singing joyfully,
Mother Spirit, I am your child!

Mother Spirit, help me be strong.
Open my eyes when I’ve gone wrong.
In my darkest hour fill me with your power,
Mother Spirit, help me be strong!

Mother Spirit, carry me home.
Help me know that I’m not alone.
When my time is through, let me rest in you,
Mother Spirit, carry me home!

By: Laura Cardiver

 

Posted by: Amy Hanson | May 21, 2011

Enough

‘I wish you enough,’ is a way to say you would like the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them.

I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.

I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them; but then an entire life to forget them.

TAKE TIME TO LIVE….

To all my friends and loved ones, I WISH YOU ENOUGH.

Posted by: Amy Hanson | May 16, 2011

Yin and Yang – The Power of Inner Balance

The most common understanding of Yin and Yang is the balance of masculine and feminine energy.  What does this exactly mean?

There are many ways to interpret Yin and Yang balance; what I would like to focus on is the balance for personal growth.  Each person, whether you are a man or woman, has both flavors of energy within them.

Yang – masculine – is the doing, logical, achieving, structured, action parts of ourselves.  Yin – feminine – is the being, creative, still, gentle, receiving parts of ourselves.

My first steps to finding balance began with acknowledging these two aspects of myself.  Once I acknowledged the existence, I began to feel how much more time I spent in the Yang or doing part of myself.  For me, there was little value placed on the Yin or being part of myself.  What I could accomplish each day was the measure of my Self-worth.  This perception created imbalance.  The creative, reflective parts of me had no space for expression.  So ingrained was my need to achieve, buried inside was the soulful part of myself .

The beginnings of this internal relationship were most uncomfortable.  The Yang always taking over with a small voice inside – The Yin – realizing things were not quite right.  I began to take inventory.  Measuring just how much of my day was doing and how much being.  No wonder I felt so tired, there was so little of my time I spent care-taking myself.  Almost everything I was doing was expending energy.  How could I prioritize my life to change this?

I wanted to dig deeper into what was behind this imbalance.  The Yang part was so tangible; when I completed what I was doing, there was always something to show for what I did.  I received compliments, got money or felt useful.  Society around me reinforced the value of what I was doing. In my head, if I took time off to be, I heard a voice that told me I was lazy and selfish.

Our parents are role models; the father the archetypical male and the mother archetypical female.  As I explored my parents influence on me, from this perspective, it all began to make sense.  My dad the provider, my mom the supporter at home.  There was something missing in their relationship though…value for my mother’s role.  As a stay-at-home-mom she didn’t contribute to the house hold in a material sense.  The quiet role she played to support the family was never acknowledged but was invaluable for the sustenance of the family.  Back then, I saw her role as weak and unimportant.  There was even anger that surfaced for me towards her role.  Today, as a mother myself, I understand the worth of what she did.

As I explored my relationship with my mom and found the wealth of what she gave to me, my internal relationship with my feminine changed.   The Yin part of me grew and I embraced a new love for myself as a woman.

I now see tremendous value for both the Yin and Yang.  As I live life, I engage an integrated balance between the two energies.  This has been key in understanding the source of imbalance and then creating a more healthful life style for me.

I leave you with a quote I read recently, “There is nothing as strong as gentleness and nothing is so gentle as real strength.”  Ralph W. Sockman

Posted by: Amy Hanson | April 27, 2011

Love and Creativity

My parents are celebrating their 59th wedding anniversary this month! As I sit in their living room and listen to their familiar banter, I wonder what it is that has kept them together so long? What is it that allows love to grow within relationship and more importantly, within us individually?

A warm and loving relationship is one of the most rewarding experiences in life; embracing a long-term commitment, even more so. To get to know and accept our partner’s strengths and weaknesses in a most intimate way, is challenging and fulfilling at the same time. It is where the deepest learning of ourselves takes place and where our creativity may flourish. Creativity sits in the heart of love and enables us to persevere the difficult times that inevitably happen; creativity works within the relationship to keep it alive and gratifying; creativity dances within the framework of relationship to help us remain whole and true to ourselves.

The love that often receives the least notice is Self-love. Spending time reflecting on the inner parts of ourselves that take away from living fully in love, and releasing from the source, takes commitment. The Self-awareness required to know when the unconscious voices of unlove take over and how to replace them with kindness and compassion can be arduous at times. Without creativity this process may become overwhelming or at worst, not happen at all.

One of the ways I uncover unconscious thoughts is when I have judgment for those around me. When I hear the voices in my head being critical, angry, discriminating, self-righteous, or feeling judged by another, I spend time noticing how I may change my outlook. Often the deeper meaning of what I am feeling is where, in my life, I am critical of myself. By identifying where the source of my harsh criticism lies within, I begin to see a situation differently. This is where creativity allows expansion beyond the old voices, perceptions and patterns. Creativity engages new parts of my being to move out of the critical and into compassion.

Healing our internal relationships is essential to becoming more Self-aware. When accessing creativity in the Self-awareness process, the outcome of love is inevitable. Creativity holds curiosity, inventiveness and inspiration, all key elements in realizing and maintaining love. Love provides safety for creativity which inspires more creativity which inspires more love. As we heal our internal relationships and nurture our inner love and creativity, more love and compassion flows in our external relationships.

Posted by: Amy Hanson | April 18, 2011

Welcome to Amy Hanson Bodywork

My name is Amy Hanson and I am a Certified ARC Bodywork Therapist.  ARC is a very rich form of healing, and after reading the description below, I invite you to explore the above tabs to help you further understand what I offer.

Bodywork is a general term that is found in many forms of healing work.  ARC Bodywork is very unique and a leading edge form of Self-Discovery.  First of all lets talk about what it isn’t.  I do not do massage or any form of muscular or skeletal manipulation.  The reference to Bodywork is because our bodies hold an incredible amount of information that we often have difficulty listening to.  The technique I use called BodySpeak ™   is an amazing dialogue that helps you understand and clarify whatever it is you are seeking by accessing your body wisdom.

During a session my clients lay, fully clothed, on a massage table.  I enhance the work by doing hands-on techniques.  This may include gently placing my hands on energy centers or pressure points.

The real magic in a session is the BodySpeak ™ dialogue.  It is a very organic process where I primarily ask questions to help you navigate through your unique internal emotional organization.  The results are very different for each person; although profound clarity is often what people come away with.

Now….if that is something you would like to explore I encourage you to read on.

I have also written many articles on my own personal journey.  I hope by sharing the challenges I face in my life, and the work I do to understand my choices, I can help other people move forward as well.

I will keep you posted on presentations, workshops and other events.  Sign up for my free newsletter and enjoy Your Discovery!

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